Of Your Charity
pray for the soul of
Brother Paul Wessinger SSJE
Who died on
May 22, 2009
In the Ninety-fifth year of his age
and in the
Sixty-fifth year of his religious profession
and the day before the
Sixty-ninth anniversary of his
Ordination to the Priesthood.
May he rest in peace and rise with Christ in Glory!
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Burial of the Dead and
Mass of the Resurrection
Tuesday 16 June
11:00 am
Monastery
980 Memorial Drive
Cambridge, MA 02138
I was so sorry to learn of Brother Paul’s death. I cherish my memories of him at St. John’s House in Durham in the late 1980’s – his compassion, his wisdom, and his gentleness. I have and will continue to remember all of you in my prayers.
Fr. Wessinger prepared me and heard my first confession when I was at ETS in the mid-1950s, and remained my confessor until I moved on to other places. What a giant of the faith. I tremble anew remembering the grace of his presence. That my religion survived and endured I owe entirely to the Society of St John The Evagelist, to Father Williams and Father Clayton, to Father Gross and above all to Fr Wessinger.
I met Father Paul in 1954.We had some long talks about my interest in the religious life.I had come to the monastery at the suggestion of my great uncle who was my pastor.I have so often reflected on those three days visit and the warmth /love which Father extended to me as he helped me to reflect .His perception led him to place me in the hands of Father Everett who became my confessor and surrogate father.I went on to college in New Mexico, and over those four years Father Wessinger wpuld send little notes of inquiry,enciouragement and guidance.I visited him once in 1979, he seemed to have been pleased that I found a career in which I seemed to be a natural.I subscriber to Cowley in order to stay in touch, and never lost an opportunity to send him a greeting as now I have been doing in my prayers for his joyful homecoming; thank God
Br. Paul’s spirit was so gentle and sweet. While I was at a “Come & See” Vocations Weekend I asked Br. Paul, “How have you changed or experienced God after all the years of being a monk?” He stated, “After all the years of praying and studying, all I know is that God is love.” I will never forget that and hold that dear to my heart. Br. Paul is now experiencing the fullest love by seeing the face of God at this time. Eternal love to you Br. Paul.
I remember Paul from my many visits at “980″. He was such a caring and open individual. I was introduced to him in an article by Tom Shaw many years ago when I first came to SSJE. Was it 1984?
I thought what compassion this person has. Then I watched and heard his sermons when I was lucky enough to be at SSJE. I even had him as a director one time! Paul taught me much about myself- he
was a wise person who loved God.
A truly compassionate human being.
“Non nobis Domini non nobis;
sed nomina tuam da gloriam.”
Fare well, Brother Paul! You were always an ambassador from the angels on Earth, whether in rich conversation, tending your beautiful gardens or baking your wonderful breads. You will be missed in these mortal realms, dear Friend of Creation.
Soulboat
May you be launched in fair weather,
with the wind at your back
and the shining stars streaming you through
the whole map of heaven.
May your strong sails of bright silk billow,
proud and free with the sun’s golden blessing,
and carry you, safe and well
and all the way home.
Alla Renée Bozarth
Fr. Paul was the kindest most loving man I have ever had the privilege to know. He came into my
life when I was lost, and with love and understanding, he guided my spritual growth. What a good and faithful servant of God – and what a blessing to all who knew him. His unfailing faith was like a beacon of light toward Christ.
I treasure a handwritten note sent to me by Br. Paul, which arrived in time for the service wherein I was installed as Canon Missioner to The Oasis, a ministry with LGBT Christians in the Diocese of Newark. “If you have the courage to be who you are, who God made you,” he wrote in part, “you have courage enough to do this work of ministry.” I will miss Br. Paul’s courage, his wisdom, and his kindness. May he rest in peace and rise in Glory.
Charlotte and I met Paul many years ago when he was Superior and we were making our first visit to the monastery. He was both a deep well of serenity and welcome, and also a sort of Auntie Mame. He opened new vistas for the both of us and continued to make us know and feel that we were always at our true earthly home at 980 Memorial. Unflappable in the presence of silliness, he was a true model of “the peace which passes understanding” for me “outside the walls”, but I’ve often wondered what agonies he endured as he made those momentous changes “within the walls” that caused such great pain and made a real mark on SSJE today. I’ve filled a Blue Box out of gratitude for Paul’s live and ministry. Rest in peace.
I had hoped to return to Boston to experience Paul’s presence one last time. Alas, that did not happen. Not only was the experience of his presence the sharing of Holy Ground, but the reality of our prayers and the space between us — even at the great distance of a continent. I am thankful for time times together and for his presence even at a distance and now with the Saints.
Dear Brothers of Paul Wessinger. We would like to extend our deepest sympathy to you over the death of Paul. He was a very remarkable man and we always enjoyed our visits with him.
Brother Paul embodied the authenticity, clarity and integrity of a true follower of Christ. His personhood seemed to fill the chapel. He lived and modeled the life of a monk, the humility and also the leadership. I am so grateful to have known him. I sought his counsel when I was trying to decide whether to stay in Cambridge or return to California where my aging mother needed someone. I feared that if I left Cambridge, I wouldn’t return. He wisely opened me to the moment, recognizing that what I did at that time didn’t define later moments. His advice was not that of a friend or therapist, but of a believer. He shifted me from chronos time to kairos. Now I attend an Anglo-Catholic parish in Glendale, California, in large part because it gives me the sense of comfort and the feeling after the service that I truly have worshipped, reminiscent of the monastery. The rector went to General Seminary where his spiritual advisor was Brother Paul.
Thank you for sending news of Br. Paul’s death. The photo you include is so him! I always found Br. Paul to be gracious, thoughtful and encouraging. We had good conversations about his hopes for the church and the religious life in England. He embraced the changes that took him to the Jeanne Jugan residence and I enjoyed vsiting him there. Though he spoke of missing conversation he also spoke of the gift of still being able to read his theological books. We will include him in the prayers here at the cathedral in Canterbury, giving thanks for his particular links with the church in England. May he indeed rest in peace and rise in glory.
It was because of Paul that I became a member of the Fellowship of Saint John at SSJE. As you are most likely aware, Paul opened the monastery for those inside and those outside, helping us all to gain a greater meaning of the church in the world—and the world in the church. Because of his groundbreaking efforts for women in the church—both lay and ordained—I later was blessed to become SSJE’s first woman deacon at their Tuesday community service. This experience gave me a deeper, almost cellular, feel for the pacing and reverential nature of our liturgy.
While in Cambridge, in and out of seminary, Paul and I became friends. This was before I knew of his family connections in Portland. When his brother died, and Paul came out to Portland for the service, I went and was surprised to find who Paul is, in Oregon and Portland terms. (Before that, he was just my Cambridge friend, Br. Paul, whom I picked up for meals, when he was visiting in Portland.) When I served in Walla Walla and Dayton, WA, Paul told me about his family’s ties to that area. When I served in Aberdeen, WA, again, Paul and his family had ties to Gray’s Harbor. Wherever I went, be it to Virginia Theological Seminary for classes, or to other cities as a priest, Paul had ties. When we were in the same city, we met, we ate, we engaged in theological, political and spiritual discussions—all spirited! I shall greatly miss talking and listening and Be-ing with Paul when I return home to Cambridge. It saddens me that I can not be in Cambridge for the celebration of his life. While I have celebrated the eucharist in his name, and remembered him in many a thankful prayer, I shall miss being with all who come to celebrate together, a man known—a very prophetic man—a man of great wisdom and compassion and grace—a man with a delightful wit!—a man who embodied the very best of the spirit of Christ, who walked and struggled and talked and lived the life of one in Christ. May he be blessed in his new life in Christ as we have all been so very blessed to have had Paul in our lives.
Br. Paul was a gracious superior who spent a short time with me after breakfast during a Lent retreat I made at SSJE in 1982. The next year he was in residence at Nashotah House when I was at a national meeting there and he heard my confession. Now, to be in the same town of his nativity and having helped the local religion reporter in the Portland Oregonian paper, I feel very connected to him. What a gracious, humble and saintly man! Phillip Ayers
Paul Wessinger was impressive in so many ways, as the many tributes have already expressed. I’ve heard many stories about how transformative his time as superior was, because he was brave enough to make many changes that made the community more welcoming (among other changes, allowing women to stay in the guest house and have meals in the refectory, which I believe happened in the mid-1970s). I was also impressed by his energy, particularly his willingness to take part in a 30-day retreat making the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius — this was less than 20 years ago, and the 30-day retreat can be exhausting for much younger people. His enthusiasm was exciting, even when it was in response to little things such as German Christmas cookies that reminded him of cookies his mother used to make. It was a comfort to attend the wake at the Jeanne Jugan Residence.
Those of us who were privileged to know Brother Paul, and we are many, have lost a true and dear friend. Paul lived deeply into to Peace of Christ which passes all understanding and he drew all of us further into that Peace. I am thankful to God for calling Brother Paul to the monastic life and for giving us such a powerful example of quiet faithfulness. Well done Paul, well done.
In my two years as a postulant and novice with SSJE, a blessed experience, I came to sense Paul as the soul of SSJE, wise, gentle, prophetic. A lover. I’ve missed him these last three years, and am sad that I won’t see him again this side of the resurrection, but am sure I will sense his presence closer than ever.
Psalm 23.
(from The Dead Sea Scroll Collection at
The Gnostic Society Library)
Your holy spirit
illuminates the dark places of the heart
of your servant,
with light like the sun.
I look to the covenants made by men,
worthless.
Only your truth shines,
and those who love it are wise
and walk in the glow
of your light.
From darkness you raise hearts.
Let light shine on your servant.
Your light is everlasting.
And a prayer learned from my brother Paul to be chanted in times of fear or trouble:
“My God and I are one.”
At last Br. Paul and his God are truly one.
Giving thanks with awe and affection for an amazing life well lived and for all the SSJE brothers as they mourn the loss of their brother and patriarch.
Roy
Brother Paul lived an extraordinary life and was a powerful voice for renewal. My enduring memory of him occurred in his later years as he would take time before meals to welcome each guest of the monastery. Thank God for the witness of this remarkable man.
I first had the pleasure of meeting Br Paul when I was a student at Nashotah House, back in 1977. He had a tremendous influence on me. What a dear, gracious and holy man. Thanks be to God for his life and witness! May he rest in peace.
Back in the early 60’s, I spent a brief time at the monastery in Cambridge testing the possibility of a call to the religious life in the Cowley Community. Br. Wessinger provided a final interview with me and firmly, but ever so gently, explained why I was not a good candidate for the community. I have never forgotten his kind and deeply concerned reasoning, and the practical steps he suggested I needed to take for my future. Early the following year, Br. Wessinger was in Washington, D.C., doing a mission at one of the city’s Anglo-Catholic parishes, and he called and asked if I would have time to show him some of the monuments of the city. He and I spent most of a day doing the tourist sites in the cold and snow. I have always treasured those hours during which I had the blessing of sharing Br. Paul’s wisdom and spirituality. He amazed me with the depth and scope of his interest and understanding of our human situation. I never saw him again, but treasured his insights and the reflections he shared with me. Thank you Lord for sending Paul Wessinger among us to give us a glimpse of Your love and Your concern. May he enter more and more into the rich joy of Your everlasting glory!
Br. Paul’s words come to me from time to time. One thing I remember most inspiring, affirming and true is that he said that “all of us live our healing everyday.” How blessed I feel to have witnessed his compassion, insight and kindness at the Monastery.
For two years, from January, 1958 until December, 1959, I had the great grace of being one of Fr. Wessingers charges, first as a postulant and then as a novice. He was “Father Master” for us in the novitiate on the third floor of the monastery and truly our Father-in-Christ. What wonderful memories of a most blessed time. I must confess that I have difficulty in thinking of–and referring to–that dear man as “Brother Paul” because in my tenure there lived at the monastery a charming idiosyncratic oblate intern Brother Paul who occasionally wandered off to parts unknown, only to return and slip back into his usual jack-of-all-trades duties around the premises, and Father Master was certaiinly not “Brother Paul”. However he may have been addressed here, I know the angels have welcomed him into that vast company of the saints in light. I always found the sound of the De Profundis bell in the evening somehow very comforting and will pray that psalm for him.
Br. Paul introduced me to the life and fellowship of SSJE. I am grateful for that gift which has been a relationship that has grown over the years. I will always remember him for this particular invitation and his patience with a young, wet behind the ears, seminarian.
Blessings and Love to all the brothers and members of the fellowship. You will all be in my prayers and thoughts.
Faithfully yours,
C. Andrew Doyle
We fondly remember BrPaul as a compassionate, empathetic person. Always kind, loving, and generous in spirit, he will be sorely missed by us and others. He showed spiritual growth and grace in aging (when we first met him) and when presented with new occurrences in the world, in his own physical being, and when he moved to a care facility. His model of a Christian life is a rich heritage that he left to all of us.
Brother Paul became a living icon for me of gentle and generous hospitality. He had the gift of making one feel cared for and remembered. I am particularly moved by my recollection of his weeping openly one Good Friday during the Liturgy, much as though he were standing at the foot of the Cross, faithful as the Beloved Disciple. He made loving God look like an extremely attractive thing to do. I am grateful to God for his fine example.
Br/Fr Paul Wessinger became an unofficial advisor to me from the time I arrived as a summer guest at the monastery in June 1957, and then went on to graduate school in the area. His example in always taking the high road of enthusastic leadership toward the vision of a life that must continually be reformed in order to conform to the way God leads us was a unique and faithful revelation of God’s handiwork. He formed the consciences of many people — not least those of his own community — in such a way as to enable the progress needed to be true to that vision. I didn’t know it nor readily accept it at the time, but this formation was a major factor in enabling me and many others to to see and embrace throughout our lives that essential renewal that keeps us focused on God’s work in perfecting his creation. As we pray for Br Paul to rest in peace, we praise God, knowing that to be truly at peace is to continue to grow in that love and service so many received from him when he was visibly active among us.
I give thanks to God for Brother Paul and his witness to a life of prayer and community that has inspired so many to know God more deeply. During my regular visits to the Monastery, in both discerning ordination and while in the process and attending seminary, Brother Paul offered the gifts of grace, wisdom, prayer, and blessings for the journey. I offer my prayers for the brothers of SSJE and for Paul, may light perpetual shine upon him.
Barnabas and I were saddened to learn of Paul’s death, only because we have lost a good friend who played a crucial role in the formation of the Society of St. Paul in its early years. Whenever he visited Portland to see his family and friends, like Bob Greenfield, SSJE, Br. Paul would arrange time to visit the brothers at our monastery in Gresham or later in Sandy, Oregon, usually for the day. He would share his knowledge and experience of the Religious Life, talk about prayer, give encouragement and sometimes provide a quiet day. He, along with other religious who visited our community from 1958 on during the Oregon years were special friends, guides and teachers on the path – but Paul was the most faithful He was such a leading light for Anglican Religious in the Ecumenical movement of the 60s and later. Perhaps his greatest gift to us was the wisdom and courage he brought in the renewal of the religious life to the Anglican communities, especially when he became superior of SSJE. He was for us a teacher, spiritual leader and most of all a dear friend whom we were blessed to know for nearly fifty years. Andrew & Barnabas
I join so many over so many years in praising God for the life and ministry of Br. Paul. Among his other accomplishments was just being around, a rock and ensign of spiritual strength and stability during times of trouble and/or instability. His prayers and cares for s will doubtless continue.
The first time I met Brother Paul we were on the red line. I was going to an ordination – the first in my life. He sat like huge crane – his long arms like wings wrapped in front of him and folded on his lap. He didn’t look very comfortable to me, but he certainly seemed full of peace. When we got off the T, I introduced myself as did he – we walked together across the street. Nothing could be more ordinary that a ride on the red line I supposed. Except that in all his quiet kindness, I felt enveloped in a simple perfect moment. And that was enough – years later while at the monastery for my own ordination retreat, I saw him again and my heart did little leap for joy as it always did from then on. We never talked to each other again, but there was no need – and many times as I watched him shuffle out of the chapel – with one of his brothers assisting him patiently, the sight always took my breath away. How many miles his dear feet faithfully trod on that sacred ground with his brothers – how amazing to know that like all the brothers, Paul walked in love as Christ loved us.
Bro David Vryhof,
Thanks for caling me about Bro Paul Wessinger’s passing. He was so kind and helpful to me. We met when St John’s House was in Durham, NC , and I was teaching at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in nearby Wake Forest. I began to go to St John’s House each Thursday for Morning Prayer, Eucharist and spiritual direction — that lasted for a couple of years until we at the Seminary were pushed out, and I along with many other colleages left. I went to Chicago to teach at the American Baptist Seminary (Northern) from which I retired in 1999. Paul remained in close contact, though I never made it to Cambridge, but we corresponded (my last being my letter to him last Christmas). He was always an encourager and supporter.
Peace, Bill Clemmons
Memphis, TN
I will never forget my first visit to SSJE and my first meeting with Br. Paul. I was instantly comforted by those big loving brown eyes. He was gentle, warm, and wise and I value greatly the conversation we shared. I am saddened that he is no longer with us physically, but am assured through our Lord’s resurrection and the communion of the saints that he will continue to watch us with that loving gaze and whisper quiet prayers for us as we journey down our paths. Br. Paul, thank-you. “All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.” (BCP)
It gives me such joy — even in the midst of sadness — to read this harvest of reflections about the many ways that Br. Paul touched and illumined so many lives, so many souls. Just seeing Br. Paul in my various visits to SSJE always made me happy. A light shone from his face, as if nothing could contain his passion for God and his delight in God’s creation.
I remember a sermon in 2004 when he preached with the tempered wisdom of an old monk-priest. With a smile, he pointed out that the best wine was reserved for last. What had he learned in all his years of faith? That God has a gentle, feminine side. That women and homosexuals are beloved by God.
I remember a long conversation in 1995 with him and other Brothers and friends about the connections between spirituality and sexuality. I hope he won’t mind my sharing what he said, for his pithy remark captures his ardor for God — and it still makes me smile. “Whether we are married, committed, or celibate,” remarked Br. Paul, “if we are not making love, we are just old bastards.”
I raise a glass of fine old wine to this wise, gentle, and passionate man of God. I will miss him so much. Rest in peace, dear Brother Paul. Thank you for your infectious faith in the divine lover of our souls, and for the many ways that you let that love shine through you.
Brother Paul directed the first retreat I made at the SSJE Monastery five years ago. He was already in failing health by then. He couldn’t walk well, couldn’t hear well, couldn’t see well. He could still preach then, but he couldn’t celebrate the Eucharist any longer, which to a priest is the worst kind of suffering. There was little he could do, and little that he said to me was specifically helpful. But watching that man, I saw Jesus. And all through those days, he prayed for me. He prayed for me, by name, at every service. He made a ministry of prayer when his body failed him, when he could do nothing else. And so what I saw in Br. Paul was what it means to age as a Christian. What he taught me was what the late Pope John Paul II taught many people in his old age, the gift of what it means to suffer the ravages of the body with Christ still in your heart. It is a gift that I will treasure always. This past Wednesday I offered Mass on his behalf. I truly believe that he will be regarded in time as a saint. And it’s funny, but I’m pretty sure he’s still praying for me, by name, right now.
God bless you, Brother Paul. I am a better Christian, a better priest, and a better man because of you.
We love you, Paul, and we praise God for your life and witness. We love you, brothers of the SSJE, and are with you in your bereavement. Paul is your brother and ours, your friend and ours.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you most especially at this time. We thank God most especially for the gift of Paul — friend, teacher, guardian, and truly a saint.
Affectionately.
i remember the first time i met father paul when john & i made our first trip to the monastery and father paul was so kind to us both and had one of the brothers show us around boston and cambridge. father paul was such a kind person and each time i went over i always had a short visit with him. i am so blessed that i saw him easter sunday. i am sure father paul will be missed by many myself included. my thoughts and prayers are with you all at the monastery. jane
I was always impressed with Br. Paul’s dignity and presence. The Holy Spirit was obviously making a witness through him.
Father Paul was sent to all of us by God to bring us closer to God…. Matthew and I are heart-broken that Father Paul has left us, but so happy to know that he returns to God to continue his sainthood in heaven. We love Father Paul so much as he has loved us and prayed for us – was one our biggest supporters. He was always so hopeful for us. From our marriage to the birth of our twins – who were born the day Father Paul departed from this life – Father Paul was there for us. May 22nd 2009 will always be an important day for us. Our son and daughter will know who Father Paul was and will recognize him as our family’s patron saint. Pray for us, Father Paul that we may come to know God as you know him now. We love you.
Gérard, Matthew, Marek and Lucie
I first met Brother Paul a couple of years ago when he came to the Jeanne Jugan Residence where I volunteer visiting the elderly residents. Brother Paul loved to be outside walking on the paths and gardens but because of his limited mobility he needed assistance and monitoring. I became his Wednesday evening walking companion (except for the first Wednesday of every month when a dinner out with his brothers took precedence). I knew nothing of his personal accomplishments, education, etc. I knew him only as a very holy and erudite elderly man. It never ceased to amaze me when I entered his room and found him deep in a book of theology or philosophy – books whose intellectual content was way beyond my capabilities, yet here was this quiet elderly man of 90+ years with a broken down body whose mind remained on the cutting edge. I will miss him.
Praise God of the life of Brother Paul, and the thousands of lives touched and transformed!
Tears of sadness,,,tears of joy.
My heart became so heavy upon hearing the news of Br. Paul’s departure of this life.
Even though it for just a few short years, it was such an honor and with much love and respect that I will always cherish the brief opportunity to have called him ‘my brother’.
The Angels in Heaven, the Saints of Glory now have one of their own amongst them forever.
Br Paul, rest in peace. Rejoice in heaven. Continue to smile. Pray for us.
Anima Christi
On the credenza by my desk as I write, with photographs of my wife, my grandchildren, is one of Br. Paul. “Is that your father?” asked the woman who cleans for us. “It is,” I said, explaining. At so many junctures of my life, especially times of doubt and despair, Paul was there quietly listening, encouraging, loving. Like Jesus, he has passed now where I can no longer visit him, touch him, but his spirit remains, enlarges, lives. His unwavering belief in his community, his faith, hope and love for it, will sustain his brothers within its walls and his many friends beyond.
On my first retreat at SSJE, Br. Paul was my spiritual director. As I was very new at this business, I was a bit nervous, but Br. Paul put me right at ease. He guided me gently and I believe I am a more committed Christian because of him. Br. Paul, I know you are with your Lord now, at peace and in joy. Praise be to God. My sympathies to all Br. Paul’s brothers in community.
Fr. Paul was my spiritual director for many years. From the days when I first met him at St. John’s House in Durham, NC., to the latter days in Cambridge, I always turned to him for wise counsel and advice as well as spiritual direction and the occasional “good, loving, yet swift kick in the spiritual rear.” Fr. Paul is the one person most responsible for my continuing on the path to ordination; even though, as he and I determined together, my vocation was not to a life in the Community, he nevertheless still loved me, prayed for me, inquired as to my life, health, and ministry, and encouraged me to serve God and God’s people wherever I may be. I praise God for Paul, for the incredible privilege of having known and been known by him, and while I shall miss him and the means of God’s grace which he was to me, I will also rejoice that this child and saint of God has now gone on to glory everlasting.
As I think of Br. Paul, I think of the Apostle Paul writing in 2 Timothy 4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith… and our Lord receiving him saying, as in Matthew 25:21… Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. My prayers are with the Brothers, and family and friends of Br. Paul.
Brother Paul was the Superior when I first came to know the Society in 1977. Under his leadership, the Guest House and the refrectory had just opened to women, and I was one of the first to benefit from the community’s gracious hospitality. It may seem hard to imagine now, but this was a courageous step at the time; yet Paul was confident that this was God’s calling. With his blessing, the Society flung its doors open even more widely to me in 1978-79, when the Guest House became the site for my seminary field education, and thus SSJE had a significant role in my pastoral, liturgical, and theological formation, for which I am ever grateful. Paul’s personal warmth was a reflection of his deep love of Christ. In his later years, as his physical strength failed, his genuine pastoral heart fused with his ardent love of God in profound intercessory prayer.
Br. Paul was my spiritual guide during my retreat two years ago. At the time, several unopened doors of life lay before me. Br. Paul helped me face the journey with such incredible wisdom and peace. He was and will always be a soul of great grace, light and sweetness of the Holy Spirit. His gifts were so powerful that I was and am blessedly changed forever for having known him – even if only for the few hours when our life’s pathways joined. Thanks be to God for the presence of his faithful servant, Br. Paul, and the blessing of his time with us.
In the first months I came to this chapel, not too long ago, I sat beside Br. Paul once. I didn’t know who he was then. It was easy to tell though when he touched my hands during peace sharing that I was in the presence of great love. And all those who came over to him and those who rested their gaze on him during the service made clear how beloved he himself was. I pray for the SSJE brothers and all mourning their loss that each may feel a hand on their shoulder as they grieve.
The world is a better place because of Br Paul. We have been blessed
Thinking of Br. Paul I want to sing “For all the saints” with great apprecition for his concern that others find stength for the journey. I remember with gratitude a Long Retreat he conducted for the Order of St. Helena back in the 60’s. My prayers are offered for all who love him but particularly for you who are his community-family. Columba Gilliss
On the many visits that my wife, Susan, and I have made to the monastery in Cambridge, we were always impressed with the dignity and presence of Br. Paul. Even in his later years, when he had slowed down considerably, he continued to radiate a confidence and peace that were a witness to the reality of the Spirit working in him.
Many many years ago when I did my first retreat at SSJE brother Wessinger was there. I was apprehensive and right away he made me feel welcome -holy hospitality. Throughout the years his constant presence was a comfort and a powerful witness to me. His steadfast faith radiated the love of Christ. I give thanks to our precious Lord Jesus for Brother Paul’s life and discipleship. I also pray for all the brothers at SSJE who are grieving. Brother Paul, “You have fought the good fight, you have finished the race, you have kept the faith…receive now the crown of righteousness…”. “The Lord gave, the Lord has taken away, blessed be the name of the Lord”.
May he rest in peace. Brother Paul was a kind and humble man who taught me about faith. I am the richer for his example, insight and patience. The brothers of the community are in my prayers, as well, as you mourn this loss and celebrate his life. Thanks be to God.
Dearly beloved Paul, so deeply missed by so many. He hitched a ride with me, back in the 70’s, from Cambridge to Peekskill for a retreat with the Sisters of Saint Mary; he put the nervous young driver at ease and so we established a bond. He spoke of his pain and the difficulties the church was facing ; it was a privilege to share those depths with him. His holiness was transparent. I miss him always and rejoice that he is twinkling with the angels.
I spent most of my summer retreats at Emery House (1999-2006), and Br. Paul was there some of those times. I noticed how his disabilities were assisted by one or another brother from year to year, gently and easily. Several times I found myself next to his chair, and my last summer there I felt myself in the privileged position of being the one to lend him an arm to the altar for Eucharist.
We did not talk much, but I felt warmed by his smile. Lately he hss been on my heart, and so I was not surprised to learn of his passing. My condolences to the SSJE brethren, who may be feeling an enormous hole in the accustomed places.
My love to you in Christ,
Maggie Wise
I am grateful for the life and ministry of Br. Paul–the lives of some of my mentors were touched in some way by what he has contributed to theirs, and I suppose in a way I was moved too by the depth of commitment and courage he had in bringing the SSJE to being truly “men of the moment” in a time of transition. May he rest in peace and rise in glory.
As I sit to write a tribute to Paul, the stories become about God and me, and not about Paul…but that is who he is to me…the clear window through which I am able to see God more clearly. I mourn for the loss of Paul’s earthly presence, but rejoice for his fresh step into new life. I give thanks to God for you, Paul. Have fun at the banquet.
I only sat with him on a few occasions to talk for any length of time. But what is so striking is the deep impression he left in my spirit and that lasts and continues, an encouragement and joy. I’m so grateful for God’s good handiwork in making and nourishing Br. Paul to be a vessel of God’s grace for so many, many people. He remains in my prayers as do all of the brothers in the community.
The first time I met Paul was on a “first time in prayer and meditation” weekend at St. John’s House in the mid 80’s. It was my first meeting with anyone from SSJE. He took my suitcase and carried it right upstairs to one of the bedrooms! My thought then was “What is this old man doing carrying my suitcase! I should be doing it. I am younger and stronger!”
Paul never missed anything. His sparkling eyes surveyed all, and his so gentle manner made you and the whole world feel comfortable. later I would discover that this good and humble man had taken his place in the councils of the church for decades, helping to shape faith and practice of The Episcopal Church and personally influence many of The Church’s leaders!
Paul was a tall man; perhaps he played basketball as a youth. If in my mind’s eye I can’t see him bobbing and weaving toward the basket, I can see his facile mind and magnificent heart moving with his teammates down the course toward the goal of the upward call of Christ to be His friend. (John 15:15)
Oh, you are indeed a gift of God, to your brothers, to all your friends, to the church, to the world. Rest in the love of the Dear One.
One of those faith-friends who casts a long nourishing, refreshing shadow over the overly sun baked hayfields of life. I trust he’ll still be keeping us under his care.
Brother Paul inspired me to know the rigors and celebrations of community. His longevity is a testimony to why prayer and community matter to us all. Continue to pray for us, Brother Paul.
I remember Father Paul fondly from my childhood, when I used to visit SSJE with my parents. He was always kind and patient, and I will miss him. What an inspiring man.
Brother Paul was my cousin and I have very fond memories of him. I first knew him as a very small child in Cohassett Beach (south of Aberdeen), Washington, and when I was a boy he visited us in Victoria, B.C., and my wife, Betty, and I fellowshiped with him at Cousin Reunions in Neahkahnie (Manzanita), Oregon. Cousin Paul has lived a long and dedicated life to the service of our Lord. We will miss him dearly but we know he has gone to a better place. In His love and service, Rev. John D. Munro and family.
My prayers are now for all of the brothers in the SSJE community. Brother Paul was such a gift to everyone and I can only imagine how much he will be missed. He is surely now with the Jesus that he so loved and lived.
Go in peace and rise in glory, dear Paul. Paul was my first spiritual director when he was doing that at The General Theological Seminary in NYC when I lived there back in the 1980s. He was wonderful, and I treasure his presence in my life and that of many others.
On February 1, 2009 I heard Br. Paul preach, what I call, the “Love Builds Up” sermon. Notes I took that day state,”Love builds up; knowledge puffs up… the simplicity and pathos, beauty and mysticism were laid out for us to know and hear. The life with the three ladies in the Irish American Empire of Somerville.” Love Builds Up became an inspiring and consistent mantra for me.
My dear brothers in Christ
be assured of my prayers for your community and for the soul of blessed Paul, beloved of God.
Fr.Wessinger has always been for me the face of SSJE and he will remain so. May he continue to enjoy the peace of God which has always surrounded him.
I only had the pleasure of meeting Brother Paul a few times, but I was deeply touched by the kindness and love that seemed to radiate from his heart. He was a very dear kind man who clearly loved God and those he met. My thoughts and prayers are with Brother Paul’s family and all the dear Brothers of SSJE. May choirs of angels greet Paul in heaven where he may rest on the breast of Christ as his beloved.
Dear Brothers of SSJE:
What an inspiration Brother Paul must have been in your lives, and the life of the Monastery. God Bless you all as you grieve, and God Bless Paul for his love of life, and his deep abiding faith in the Lord.
Such a brave soul, Paul! In the early days of women’s ordination SSJE voted to embrace both the ‘79 Book of Common Prayer and women’s ordination. During my process towards postulancy for Holy Orders in the Diocese of Massachusetts I was told to seek a spiritual director in order to better articulate my relationship with Jesus Christ, so I made an appointment with Paul. He listened and suggested I come back in three weeks.
When I returned he said he’d like to be my spiritual director. Some members of SSJE were in painful struggle with women’s ordination — and the BCP — and as Superior he wanted to walk the journey towards ordination with me. “I don’t know anything about women,” he said with that twinkle in his eye. So he and I worked together for several rich, holy years. He was one of my presenters when I was ordained deacon at St. Paul’s Cathedral in May of 1983, and then he travelled to Texas to read a lesson at my ordination to the priesthood in March 0f 1984. He really enjoyed spring in Houston: the azaleas were out and it was warm and sunny. What a dear man! Catherine Nichols, Portland, Oregon (where Paul grew up. He always spoke so highly of his Portland family, and when I was called to serve at Trinity Cathedral here, I grew to love his sister-in-law Beth, and his old friend, Canon Dr. John Strege who is director of music at Trinity.)
From an article in the Winter 2005 Episcopal Times, upon the occasion of Brother Paul’s 90th birthday: “…The Episcopal Church’s presiding bishop, the Most Rev. Frank T. Griswold (pictured
with Brother Paul) presided and preached at a liturgy in special thanks for Brother Paul’s many decades of pastoral and prophetic ministry throughout North American, the British Isles and southern Africa. In his sermon, Bishop Griswold said that ‘Paul’s decision in 1945 to be planted in the house of the Lord—this monastic brotherhood—has not been without great personal cost, yet it has produced a flourishing which has blessed and continues to bless countless women and men who
seek him out and ask for a word of wisdom, encouragement or absolution. What is amazing, and clearly the consequence of grace—the source of all human flourishing—is that the older Paul gets the more green and full of the sap of interior freedom and youthfulness of spirit he becomes. In him we are confronted by the paradox of an aging body indwelt by increasing interior strength made manifest in a disconcerting spontaneity, graced iconoclasm and impatient clearness about the true heart of the Gospel and the lineaments of Christ’s risen body, the church.’”
Late in 1977 — on the Feast of St. John, actually — my husband and I visited the monastery together, having just been married a few months before. I was in the process for ordination in the Diocese of New York. The Cowley community was torn over the issue of the ordination of women at the time, and so I was a little apprehensive about our visit. I needn’t have been. I remember seeing Br. Paul, who was the superior at the time, talking to one of the monks and nodding in my direction. Because I would not have been admitted to the refectory according to the rules of the time, the community would come out to share their festive dinner with me. It was a kind and wise gesture, and provided an example to me of hospitality and generosity of spirit in difficult times that I will not likely forget. Br. Paul was a great blessing to me.
Paul Wessinger was and remains my one and only Father in God. He was my spiritual director for over 10 years. He saw me through the ordination process and seminary. He even got on a plane and came to visit me in South Africa in the Diocese of Christ the King—I will never forget his glorious smile as they wheeled him off the plane in the spring of 2000! More than anything, as I entered and still remain in parish ministry, I think of Paul’s gentle encouragment to live the Gospel in my life boldly especially in the area of inclusivity. His life lives on in my own ministry—I only hope I can live the Gospel with such grace, goodwill and an uncompromising sense of justice and mercy. Paul’s presence in my life is a sure foundation of Christ–I know it has been for many spiritual directees and clergy.
Dear SSJE brothers,
You are in my prayers today, as you are all days, as you mourn the passing of Brother Paul. A gentle soul, emblematic of the grace and hospitality which is the mark of your astonishing community.
Peace
dku
Br.Paul was truly a loveable – and clearly a loving – man. He was gentle and kind, thoughtful, dependable and with a wonderful – & also gentle – sense of humor. It was easy to love him. I find that I keep looking for him there in his accustomed place in the chapel. It was a gift to me to have known him. Peggy Gunness
My life was deeply shaped by the gentle holiness of Br. Paul. For many years he shared his wisdom on what it meant to live with the mantle of leadership in monastic community as well as the joys and sorrows of community life. His wise counsel, his depth of prayer and his humor always left me with a profound sense of the presence of the Holy One. May the angles and archangles gather him into the heavenly choirs with rejoicing.
Br.Paul listened to me patiently when he had trouble hearing and spent time with me when he was in some discomfort. I felt the presence of Christ through him and it was all that I needed. Go well, Brother Paul. Feel the Peace of the Lord.
Fond memories of all the times he spent at Tymawr; for his encouragement and help, and wonderful gentle presence. Our love and prayers to the Community. May he rest in peace. From the Sisters of the Society of the Sacred Cross
For Br Paul’s experience and wisdom and love and kindness I give thanks. It was and is a privilege to have been part of the community marked by his leadership.
Thank you, Gracious God, for the life of Brother Paul. Thank you for his kindness, his radiance, his full presence, his prayerful life, his leadership, his humor, his gentleness, and his commitment to a community that has blessed so many lives.
Dearest Brothers,
My Love and Prayers go out to the Commuity and to Br. Paul’s family. I really didn’t get a chance to know him, but his presence was a great inspiration, seeing how he devoted his life to Christ and showed so many a way to live a Christ centered life.
May he rest in Peace and may perpetual light shine upon him!
Ahhh. So Brother Paul has begun his 70th year of the priesthood worshipping in a far better place. Thanks be to God, Alleluia.
Br. Paul is most great icono of the religius life for the XXI Century, our Church want build in Colombia a model of this devote life in the GETSEMANY ABBEY
The Rt. Rev. Victor Manuel Cruz Blanco
I remember meeting Br Paul when he was caring for his beloved plants. That loving care was extended to me as I came to know and love him. I will miss his wonderful presence. He was a blessing in my life. God speed Br Paul
Dear Br. Paul, Thank you for gracing us with the gift of your spititual presence.
Dear Brothers of SSJE,
I have always marveled at the many faithful years that Brother Paul gave to your community and, by extension, to all of us. It is amazing to think about the tumultous events that he lived through and the grant changes in the church that occured during his tenure as your superior. Though I only got a chance to see Paul in his old age, I will not soon forget his gentle and kind manner. I have often wondered what he must have been like in years past but I do not doubt the enormous contribution he has made to the world around him. No Christian could ask anymore of life.
Godspeed Brother Paul – you will be sorely missed!
Thanks be to God for the life and ministry of Paul Wessinger. I will never forget the first time I heard Fr Paul preach at the church on Bowdoin Street. His voice was so soothing: it was the voice of the Love of God. His appeal to listen to the voice of such a loving God continues to strengthen my faith and confidence to endure whatever I encounter in this life. He was particularly kind and generous to me and I will always remember during a visit to the monastery how he came down the stairs to the choir room in his debility just to greet me. Wow! I knew it was a taxing effort to descend and then to climb those stairs again. I will always remember his gentle heart and his constant gaze toward heaven.
Thank God for Holy Spaces
Thank God for Holy Places
Thank God for Holy Servants
Br. Paul was all this in my life – from Durham until forever.
AMEN
Br. Paul was the kind and gentle leader of my first retreat with SSJE, at a time when my heart and soul really craved the authentic monastic experience that he so embodied. I thank God for his life, guidance and example, and will remember him with fondness. Requiescat in pace et gaudio.
Br. Paul, as always, will watch over us.
News of Br Paul’s death came to me this morning, via the SSJE list serve. I wept upon reading it, at once mourning Br Paul’s death, and celebrating his life; the strength, grace, gentleness, abundance, beauty… of it. I first met Br Paul in 1980, at Evensong, where we were introduced by Christen Struthers Frothingham, then a candidate for Holy Orders, and now a priest in the Diocese of Massachusetts. At a crucial moment in my life, conversations with Br Paul helped me affirm the existence of God, the truth and profundity of God’s revelation of himself in Jesus Christ, and the place of the Church, Catholic, Apostolic, Episcopal, in the work of salvation. I am an Anglo-Catholic, and a priest, in part because of those moments shared with him, and because of his witness, in all he was, as well as did, during the time it was my privilege to know him. These words from one of his last sermons express something of the beauty of God I beheld in him. May he Rest in Peace, and Rise in Glory….Amen.
“Our hope lies not in what we have done for God, but in what God has done for us: Every action by which his strength has been developed in us has been a deifying action, gathering us up into the participation of the divine nature, which is the blessed purpose of his Incarnation, the fruit of his mediatorial love, the epiphany of his triumphant power.”
Br/Fr Paul Wessinger SSJE
I knew this day would come one day… but now that it is here it is still very, very sad… I will deeply, deeply miss Paul. He was such a spiritual giant, a holy sage, and so filled with the love of our triune God. And he was so gentle and loving. He was quiet influential for my own journey. May he rest in peace and rise in glory.
I can imagine only that Brother Paul will indeed rest in peace and that Light perpetual will shine upon him. His vision, Love, and leadership in bringing SSJE North America into the 20th century and now 21st century Episcopal Church is a gift not only to our Brothers in the Society, but to all of us, especially lay women, who have benefited from the community’s greater openness and hospitality in including us in the Society’s embrace. He has a very special place in my prayers.
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It is hard to imagine SSJE without the deep root that Br. Paul was and represented. How poignant and lovely that he celebrated his 69th Anniversary of Ordination with a heavenly banquet. My prayers are with the Community, as each member perhaps reflects on the root or rootlet (or even hair roots) that they are and represent. May you each know and feel yourself held in God’s love, and the love of the Community’s friends, far and near, as you mourn and celebrate Br. Paul’s passing. May you feel your roots deepening…sinking down ever deeper into love. ~♥~
My prayers and warm wishes are with your whole community this week and in the weeks ahead, as you begin to honor Paul’s life. While I didn’t know Paul well, I heard a few of you speak of him over the years, and I got a small sense of how much he has meant to you and to the order over the decades of his life. I will miss seeing him in the chapel (as I have for some time now), and will pray for you in your time of mourning and celebration.
My prayers, and loving memories go out to this wonderful Priest, friend, confessor, mentor and inspiration.In every way he blessed my life, and I thank God for every minute spent in his company. in worship, in prayer, observing his love of gardening, his many loveable qualities.
There was also astonishment at the people he’d served, the places he had been, the sermons, prayers, and celebrations of Mass. I have had many friends among the clergy who, when mentioning Fr. Wessinger, knew him, had been advised or served by him,some joyful experience with him. He turned up everywhere, always leaving a holy and positive mark.Thank God, and prayers for his loving brothers who carry on without him.
With grateful thanks for Brother Paul’s magnificent welcoming of strangers to SSJE. We were so blessed for so many years. For me, maybe 20 years!!? Wow.
Tom Wintle
Br. Paul – Go in peace, dear Br. Paul! You were so kind and welcoming to me when I visited the guesthouse. I will remember you forever!
Paul will always be an inspiration to me. He was my confessor on one of my retreats some years ago. The love and humility of Christ shone though him that day, as I know must have been true for countless others in the course of his long ministry. Rest in peace, Brother Paul.
Father Paul Wessinger was the first member of the SSJE with whom I became acquainted, and he became a good friend. Anyone who met him recognized immediately the depth of his spirituality. I feel blessed to have known him for over 50 years.
We shared good food and wine and stories of life and faith
– in Durham 1981-1990
– in Alexandria in 1991.
He left the feast to listen to my sorrow — December 28, 1985.
He helped me discern my vocation 1986-1990.
He picked my bridal bouquet from the garden at St. John’s House where my husband and I married — 1989
He prayed my daughter into existence — 1990-1993.
We shared conversation and silence — Lent 2007.
We exchanged very few letters….
He was a holy presence in my adult life.
I love him.
I headed to the monastery tonight knowing that I would not find Br. Paul in his usual spot, his large frame folded into the choir stall by the ambo, thoughtfully reading a transcript of the sermon that it had become difficult for him to hear. Instead there was a beautiful potted orchid marking his seat, white but with green creeping up the stem into the petals. It reminded me of a line from the Psalms, “But I am like a green olive tree in the house of the Lord; I trust in the mercy of God for ever and ever.” I only knew Br. Paul in his old age; indeed, he was old when I was born! But he taught me that in Christ, we can always stay “green”: tender-hearted, open to the world, able to engage with the many changes that roll in on the tide of history in our lifetimes, passionate for justice. We don’t have to become calcified in the mindset of our youth- in Christ we can keep growing into the person God wants us to be, all our lives. Praise God for Br. Paul! May light perpetual shine upon him, and may his soul and the souls of all the departed rest in peace.
An abiding memory I have of Brother Paul is that, during a workshop on the body and prayer I led for the brothers many years ago, I asked them to express the 23rd Psalm in movement. Before long, I noticed Br. Paul with his cane, “herding” the younger brothers crawling on hands and knees in front of him. I will always think of him as the Good Shepherd, as I suspect this was a case of type-casting. May he rest in peace.
Although I never had the priviledge of meeting Brother Paul it was clear to me, from those who knew him, that he was a very beloved man who touched the lives of many people with love and acceptance. I am praying for his soul. I see him resting in the arms of Jesus.
What a giant of a man (in more ways than one!). I first met Br. Paul when he has lyeing at the foot of a step in the hall at Fairacres, Oxfor England. He had slipped and I was called to help him up…..that is when I first realized what a giant he was! But I will never forget his humor, and kindness.
When I came home to the States and was asked to help God bring Episcopal Carmel of Saint Teresa into the world Br. Paul was a huge sorce of encouragement and affirmation. His prayer has boosted my courage when it faltered. I rejoice with him in the “nearer Presence of our Lord”….and send my love and prayers to the SSJE family ..
Sister Teresa Irene OCD
My heartfelt condolences and prayers on behalf of Fr. Paul. I met him when I had the honor to paint his portrait. I was touched by his humble and kind humanity. I have never forgotten the afternoon we spent together, talking, deciding on his robes and finally adding flowers to use with his portrait. I am sure Fr. Paul is dancing with the angels now and smiling down at us.
I was blessed to have Br. Paul as a spiritual director while I was in seminary. What seemed to have the greatest impact on me was not anything he said or taught, but just being in his presence. My prayers are with the community.
Brother Paul was an important part of my formation ultimately leading to ordination to the diaconate. He gave me the courage to listen patiently for God’s direction, through both his direct advice and his strong, inspiring, and also calm and gentle presence. When the SSJE closed St. John’s House in Durham, I missed all the brothers, but I knew especially with Paul that their departure from our geography did not mean abandonment. Through the subsequent years, Paul’s continued presence in Cambridge reassured me that the wisdom, humor, and insight I received from him in Durham was still available. Even as his physical being began to wind down, it seemed each time I saw him again that his spirit was glowing with more ardor and vigor. May the peace and joy that he embodied spread even more broadly through this sadly conflicted world. Thanks be to God for lending Paul to the world for so many years, and for that which will continue as a result of his ministry. May memories of his life bring peace to all the brothers and all who knew him.
In March of 1984 my journal reads, “Another quiet time at St. John’s, House — thank you, Lord.” That is where I met Paul Wessinger here in North Carolina. I cannot tell you what Br. Paul said that day, and yet I can tell you that his words, his spirit, his demeanor, his stature (including his huge feet) gave me solace and peace when it was sorely needed. I have always been grateful for his influence in my spirtual journey. Praise God!
As the Easter Season draws to a close may he sing for us and with us Glory to God in the Highest,and for us here Peace to His people on earth. Thanks and well done good and faithful servant.
I first met Bro. Paul in 1993 (?) when I made my first (Episcopal/Anglican) Retreat at the St. John’s House in Durham, NC. Bro. Eldredge was my director and the retreat was wonderful, profound and transforming in many ways. I met Bro. Paul and enjoyed our brief conversations. St. Joyn’s House was closed a year later and the NC Brothers returned to Cambridge, MA. 1995 I became a member of the Fellowship of St. John, and over the years I enjoyed visiting and seeing the Bro. Paul. As a fellow General Seminary Graduate (albeit 61 years apart) I enjoyed his stories of his time at GTS, his time with Cowley in the UK, and other Church lore. Above all, I treasured his holiness, for Brother PAul truly exuded the holiness and humility of a priest and monk. As a current member of the faculty at the School of Theology here at Sewanee, I know I speak for us all as we extend condolences to the SSJE community.
“In Pace Requiescat” Father!
Walter Brownridge+
I was (and am!) inspired by his devotion to the order and the love he shared with all of us. God’s peace, dear Paul.
Although Father Paul reached a great age, I feel his death as a personal loss. During my years at Harvard, while I was struggling with the decision of whether or not I would seek ordination, I was supported by his generous presence. I remember as a great privilege the many times when I served him at Mass. He had an enormous influence on me. Louis Weil
Condolences and prayers on behalf of Brother Paul. At Virginia Theological Seminary he was such a quietly elegant presence on campus and my first introduction to SSJE was through his describing himself as a “Cowboy Father”. Somehow that made him 100% present and acceptable in the strange world of the church and its instructions.
May his soul rest in God’s eternal peace.
I will always remember Fr. Paul’s kindness to me when I first visited the monastery nearly 25 years ago. I was surprised at his genuine caring for someone who was a stranger.
Brother Paul was an insightful and encouraging retreat leader for my husband and I when we visited the monastery on the weekend before we renewed our marriage vows in the Episcopal church. I remember the depth of his listening most, as well as his warm sense of humor. I have missed his presence at the monastery in recent years – his light kept the place young.
Brother Paul had a wonderful way of listening and making each of us profoundly aware of God’s compassion. The conversations I was privileged to have with him were an important touchstone on my journey, and I’m filled with awe when I consider the many lives he touched so deeply. My prayers are with the SSJE brothers and all who grieve for him.
Our Dear Brother Paul, is now Home with the King of Kings and receiving his reward from God, and enjoying his “Welcome Home Reception” with God, all the angles & saints and all good and holy souls!
Ua mau mai e ka pono mai ka Makua lani mai. (Perpetual is the righteousness that comes from the Father above.)
Pax et Bonum,
Brother Francis Leo, OEF
I did not meet Br. Paul until he was in his retirement years (if such a phrase ever describes time in the life of a religious–), but his quiet steadiness was an inspiration.
It seems that the anniversary of his priesting was to be celebrated this year no longer in earthly ways, but in heavenly ones, not with a choir of his brothers, but with a choir of angels, not with a eucharist of bread and wine, but in table fellowship with the Lamb.
I send my prayers to you all as you open your hands and allow this living history to pass from you into the adventure that awaits him now.
Thanks be to God for the life and ministry of Brother Paul! May he rest in peace and rise in glory.
I met Paul over 40 years ago at General Seminary on a quiet day. I was filled with many emotions that day, and when I went to him for a pastoral conversation, I specifically remember feeling the Lord’s strength and warmth fill my heart. More than anyone in my spiritual formation, he gave me the gift of forgiveness and deepening self worth. I have never forgotten than day nor will I ever, him.
What I remember most clearly about Br. Paul, from several stays at the monastery when I was in divinity school and/or in the ordination process, was his warm welcome to visitors and his sharing of stories from his many years of leadership at the monastery. I don’t remember the particulars, but the stories always seemed to be steeped in themes of forward progress and excitement, of striving for a prophetic voice and example for his beloved community and family. I give thanks for him and for SSJE in general. Peace to all of you.
i remember Fr. Wessinger he taught us when i was a youngster at St.Augustine and St.Martin. Hewas a wonderful priest. and he was the Church at it,s best
Br. Paul was an extraordinarily wise and kind spiritual director to me, who knew just what to say and when. I give thanks for his many gifts, the deep experiences of his life upon which he was not afraid to draw, his generosity, and his extraordinary capacity to show his vulnerability in such a way that enabled me to get in touch with my own. He was a truly wonderful person, with a prodigious memory and the warmest of smiles; he was so important within the whole SSJE community, and much loved by very many. I send my love and prayers to the SSJE brothers as they mourn his loss.
God bless you, Paul, for your deep kindliness, compassion, endurance, and wisdom. I always savor my memory of you, newly refreshed with two new knees, leading our fall clergy retreat in Maine back in the mid-90’s. Every time you rose, you had to swing yourself up, and the “dance” of it seemed an appropriate incarnation of the “dance” of new life you were teaching us about. I treasure that memory and the abiding twinkle in your eyes.
Holly
A man to remember. I remember meeting him at a small retreat he conducted in the library and chapel of the old DeKoven Foundation, Racine, probably in the late 1960’s. Years later I wrote him from Chicago mentioning I had lost an Orthodox-style “rope” rosary. Back came a battered envelope with gift of a replacement for my loss. My condolences to his family in Christ, both in the monastery and in the world.
I always felt a sense of peace and tranquility in Paul’s presence. He was a lovely soul. May he rest in the presence of the Lord. LORNA
I will miss Paul at the Monastery, but realize his spirit is still there. RAYMOND
I am saddened to hear of Br. Paul’s death, but immensely grateful for his life and witness. He was very important to me, and I count it as a privilege to have known him. I take comfort in the sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life, and pray with gladness that Paul is at peace, his labors now ended.
I knew (we called him Fr. then) Paul over 20 years ago in North Carolina. A lovely man that really helped me in my own coming out process as gay Christian.
I also remember talking with Paul about my sadness when my Grandmother downsized from her lovely big old home to a much smaller place. I made the comment to him that so much of her life seemed now packed away in boxes, and how sad that made me.
Paul taught me that her life wasn’t packed away at all, that her life was in me, and my siblings, and cousins, and her other family, and friends, and the students she had taught in a 30 year career as a High School English teacher.
Today I hope there is a Heaven, so that I may know Paul is there.
But at least I know that a little of Fr. Paul’s life is also packed away in me.
And I am profoundly grateful.
To all of you at SSJE – I was blessed to spend some time with Brother Paul two years ago and his
wisdom, humour and love moved me deeply. Indeed one of the saints that one is blessed to
have known and I am saddened for all of you who saw him so regularly – daily – and he and you will be in my prayers, the prayers of my parish family here. Now, he is truly at rest.
What a wonderful and gentle soul. I met him only once and that was during a visit at the monastery in November of 2007. We enjoyed a meal together and an opportunity to chat during one of those rare moments when the meal was not silent. Funny how it is always possible to know when you are in the presence of someone with great integrity and authenticity of faith. Pie Jesu Requiem Br. Paul Wessinger, dona ea requiem, sempiternam requiem. “Gentle Jesus grant him eternal rest”
Dear Brothers,
I am very saddened to hear of the loss of your brother, Paul. I always felt welcomed by his warm smile and gentle presence. May he now rest in peace for all eternity. My love and prayers are with all of his brothers as you grieve the loss of this gentle giant of a man.
Love and peace to all of you. Billie
Our God, receive the soul of your faithful servant Paul. Remember his incessant love for You.
Forgive his sins, remember his humility. Thank you for the gift of his life and for his life’s
Vocation. Father Paul, remember us now before Your Gentle Christ and pray for us.Pray for your
Community of Brothers and Friends. Pray for me who met you only through the SSJE pamphlet, full of
inspiration and information. It is there that the Lord showed me your gracious face. Remember this
Roman Catholic who has long respected the Anglican Catholic Tradition. Requiescant In Pace, good
Father Paul.
Anne Marie Bourassa
Westbrook Maine
Br. Paul was such an inspiration to me. His leadership of S.S.J.E. and his work as a spiritual director were marked by honesty, integrity and a heart open to the leading of the Holy Spirit. He had that rare capacity to be content in whatever circumstance he found himself. His life was a model of faithful discipleship and remembering how he had weathered the storms of his life and the church’s life has lifted my spirits more than once.
We shall pray for him and I know he shall pray for us.
In the many years of my contacts with SSJE none have been more memorable than those of that relatively short time during which I visited the monastery frequently, and in which I came to know and love Br. Paul Wessinger more and more. The transparent holiness of this man in the living of his monastic vows, and in the simplicity of his priestly life, became for me a kind of icon of what I as a priest and a Christian might be as well. Surely he now rests in peace, and I know he will rise in glory.
Dearest Brothers, Brother Paul was a beautiful loving soul, gallantly moving through his life with an inner strength that even his aging body could not deny. I am happy for him that he has been released, yet at the same time mourn for our loss at not having him physically here with him. Peace to you all… Love, Pat
When I take the subway to work in the morning, I listen to the sermons given by the brothers on my ipod. A couple of weeks ago I was privileged to listen to Brother Paul give a sermon on the Gift of Hope. I was especially drawn to the following lines “Our hope lies not in what we have done for God, but in what God has done for us: Every action by which his strength has been developed in us has been a deifying action, gathering us up into the participation of the divine nature, which is the blessed purpose of his Incarnation, the fruit of his mediatorial love, the epiphany of his triumphant power.”
I will miss you Br. Paul – our chats about the UK and gardening, but most of all your wonderful smile that drew us all into your soul.
Blessings, Angela
We are blessed as Christians to believe in the Resurrection story and to know that upon death our loved ones rest in the arms of Jesus. My thoughts and prayers are with the SSJE Community as they grieve Brother Paul’s passing.
Dear SSJE Brothers,
We send you our prayers and consolations for the loss of your brother Paul. He was a radiant presence and a kind soul always. May he rest in peace and may you all find comfort in the memories and gifts of his priesthood.
Peace in Christ,
Margaret, Jon, and Ben
Paul was a dear man, brave, frank, Christly in many ways, upright of backbone, kindly of disposition, and with great affection toward youngsters. I wonder how many young folk now know of the daring sermon he preached about homosexuals being God’s children worthy of the Church’s love and acceptance back in the 1960s, and of the way he witnessed to Virginia Seminary about these issues, not to mention his role in keeping SSJE strong and forward-moving when a group of brothers left over women’s ordination. He was unfailingly kind to me and I remember him with love.
Jennifer
Brother Paul delivered a Sunday Sermon a few years ago. He shuffled to the stand and began speaking in a hoarse, old man voice, looking and sounding every day of his 90 plus years.
I forget the reading, but Brother Paul had other writing in mind that day, Pope Benedict’s first Encyclical criticizing gay love. He described the Pope’s position.
He paused. We all leaned forward into the quiet.
Brother Paul looked up from his text and into the face of his house of worship, and from a great lion of a soul, roared, “We say this is Wrong”.
I swear, I heard thunder.
I loved him. As a Christian, as a religious, he was brilliantly the “real” thing.
When I came to Harvard in 1943, Fr. Wessinger was really Brother Paul. I didn’t attend his Ordination, but I served him at one of his first Masses. He apologized afterwards saying, “I’m still a little slow.” (In those days Cowley Fathers celebrated with–not too reverent–rapidity.) Fr. Wessinger was a faithful, dedicated religious, in the days when Cowley wasn’t too happy a place, carrying gracefully through its modernization, and on into its present very useful period. He made a successful Superior and–I think–at another time a Novice Master.
I can’t say we were ever close friends, but I always respected him and valued the witness that he bore. Now he has gone to a well deserved reward, and I hope he’ll keep us in his prayers.
Such a kindly, loving man of great faith and joy. I know that I will miss Br. Paul’s peaceful presence at SSJE, but rejoice in the knowledge that he has joined the heavenly chorus.
The last time I saw Br. Paul was in spring of 2008 when I became a member of the Fellowship of SSJE. His humor, warmth, and sincere interest in making a difference in the world insures that I will, for one, never forget him.
I arrived at the Monastery guesthouse Friday just as news of Paul’s passing had arrived and I wrote an entry about the experience that day at my blog. Look for the May 22nd entry at:
http://www.churchofthewildgoose.com/May%202009.htm
Fr. Paul: a faithful confessor, a gentle counsellor, a warm presence, a resting place. May you rest in peace and rise in glory. Amen
Br. Paul no longer needs my prayers, but I honor his service and devotion to God.
Br. Paul was my spiritual director during a week-long retreat at the monastery a couple of years ago. I only knew him a short time, but I remain grateful for the compassion and wisdom he gave me during that week. It was a real gift of grace.
May he rest in peace. May the commmunity of SSJE hold his memory.
Brother Paul had an unusual memory. The first time I met him (15 or so years ago) I asked what he knew about the “Catholic Commonwealth and Hastings Smyhte.” He responded “Only a little” and then told me what he knew. The few times that I stayed at the Monastery after that – Brother Paul would seek me out to ask if I knew anything more than that first time we spoke. I was always amazed that he not only remembered me – but what we spoke about. I now live out of the country but will miss him the next time I drive along the Charles. – Ken Near, Westmount, Quebec
I was thinking of Br Paul this past week, in that way our prayers align with life. I knew him during the brothers’ years at Cobb Street, in Durham NC. Br Paul was kind yet probing, and his direction came with honest words and simple actions afterwards, as if to show us how to be — making a fire in the hearth when guests were cold, observing birds outside, shooing cats from the chapel, kneading bread until arthritis kept this from him. He was authentic, discerning, joyous, towering and rare. I understand the Jesus of John’s gospel better, and His love for his friends and disciples, having known Br Paul. Arohanui, rest in peace.
We at St. James’, Upper Montclair will remember Br. Paul before God during our celebration of the Feast of Pentecost. O Holy Spirit, who empowered Br. Paul to serve your will in this world, grant Br. Paul the fullness of your joy in your unmediated and eternal presence.
And I have felt
A presence that disturbs me with joy
Of elevated thoughts; a sense sublime
Of something far more deeply interfused,
Whose dwelling is the light of setting suns,
And the round ocean and the living air,
And the blue sky, and in the mind of man:
A motion and a spirit, that impels
All thinking things, all objects of all thoughts,
And rolls through all things.
Wordsworth-Tintern Abbey
Brother Paul taught me to preach the truth, serve others with love, and wait in silence. May his soul, and the souls of all the departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
I met Brother Paul only once, yet think of him with love. I offer prayers for his soul and thanks for his life.
Br. Paul radiated warmth, welcome, and kindness. It was always a gift to be in his presence. My heart goes out to the SSJE Brothers in their deep loss.
What a sad loss for the whole community inside and outside the walls of the monastery. He was such a “Jesus” presence, so full of life, so clear about who he was, so wise and kind in his understanding of others. A truly gracious person. Heaven must be rejoicing at his arrival. Thanks be for his life. He is in my prayers as are all the brotheers at this time.
I didn’t know Brother Paul for very long, but for the time that I did his presence, friendliness, and authenticity were gifts to me, for which I am grateful to have received. Bless his beautiful soul–he is with Christ and the angels now. My heart and prayers are with him and all of his brothers.
Br. Paul was my spiritual director once when I was on retreat and I will always remember his gentle but powerful guidance. Thank you God, for the gift of Br. Paul.
I am a seminarian at an Episcopal seminary and a Candidate for Holy Orders. At a crucial turning point in my faith journey, God brought me to Paul for the Rite of Reconciliation. I laid out all my shame and vulnerabilities and inconvenient truths before him, looking for a way towards wholeness. In that little room near the front door of the Guesthouse, when my litany of flailing and wandering and faltering was finally spent, his very being shone out with the presence of Christ graciously, magnanimously welcoming this prodigal home with open arms. In part because of his ministry, I am where and who I am today. I will never forget his warm, loving presence. May light perpetual shine upon him.
Brother Paul Wessinger and I met at Cambridge on my first visit to SSJE during a very painful time for me. It was a very significant meeting for us both. Because of him I found the courage to pursue the truth in my life and embrace my careeer in music again, my best destiny. His seriousness and passion for integrity and his confidence in the truth that God revealed to him will always be his gift to those he touched. He told me he felt a special bond with me and now through prayer that bond will have meaning.
I have fond memories of a retreat led By Brother Paul. My condolences and may he rest in peace
At each time I was able to either worship & pray; or to be on retreat at SSJE, Brother Paul stood out, while all the time he was attempting to NOT stand out. In spite of his own personal efforts to be in the background, his quiet strength and beauty of soul never failed to touch me in the deepest way. How fortunate our gift that the Lord gave him so much earthly time before rewarding this good & faithful servant with heavenly rest. Without words his heart witnessed aloud the proximity of God. R.I.P.
I send my heartfelt condolences to the Superior, Brothers of SSJE, and the family of Bro.Paul Wessinger. I recall the wisdom of Bro.Paul Wessinger in 2006, “We wish you to come and stay with us you study in US.” Indeed, God fulfilled the words from His servant. I came and have enjoyed the hospitality of the SSJE brothers.
“May his soul rest in eternal peace.” “Blessed are those who rest peacefully in the Lord.”
With God’s love,
Elphas Odwisa Wambani
Eternal rest grant unto him O lord, and may perpetual light shine upon him!
Well done, good and faithful servant!
Brother Paul was a true gift to our Church and to me personally. I give thanks for his life.
Paul was such an amazing man. He was younger in spirit and thought at 95 than most people I know.
Thanks be to God for Paul, a life in which holiness and authentic humanity were wonderfully met.
I was surprised and delighted on one retreat to discover how impish and liberal was Br. Paul!
I am very sad to hear of his death. He has been an icon of the best of SSJE for many years. My deep condolences to all his brothers and to all others who loved him too.
I pray for myself that in the hour of my death the physical and emotional pain does not overshadow my connection to the Father and the Son, but instead only strengthens the bond. I pray the same for all human beings and for Br. Paul. I still carry the hope to meet you in person someday, Br. Paul, and how fantastic that day will be at the banquet table with the Father and the Son and all the saints in the Kingdom. For now, rest in peace dear brother.
Paul Wessinger was one of the most influential priests in my life. My first retreat was during his term as Superior and he not only allayed my fears, but also made me feel extremely comfortable and welcome. When my spiritual director left ssje somewhat abruptly Paul went out of his way to help me feel a deep sense of connection to the community despite being “directorless”. He was for me, the heart and soul of the order, with a steadfast and gentle faith that radiated Christ’s love. I will miss his smile, his warm presence, and his constant projects of breadmaking and gardening. May his soul rest in peace. Thanks be to God for this saint.
Br. Paul was a gift to all who knew him. I came to know him only in the last few years and found joy in being able to visit him and do small things that brought him pleasure. I thought i was being a help to him – but i was wrong. By his gracious asking he was all the while being a help to me, teaching me about how to make old age a gift of grace to others. May he rise swiftly to the heart of Jesus whom he loved.