About Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Brother Geoffrey Tristram was born in Wales and studied theology at Cambridge University before training to be a priest at Westcott House theological college. He came to the United States eleven years ago to join SSJE and has pursued a ministry of teaching, spiritual direction and retreat leading, and for three year years he has served as chaplain to the House of Bishops. Before coming to SSJE he served as parish priest in the diocese of St. Albans, as well as the head of department of theology at Oundle School, a large Anglican high school in the English Midlands.

The Radical Practice of Waiting – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Isaiah 40:27-end
Psalm 130
Mark 4:26-32

“All good things come to those who wait!”  My mother used to say that to my brothers and sister and me when we were growing up – and I hated it!  “No, can’t I have it NOW?” – we’d plead.  “Please, can you buy me a Chelsea football shirt?”  “No, you’ll have to wait till the end of the month.”  “O no, why can’t I have it now?”

In our Western society, we hate having to wait.  At the supermarket, deciding which lane will be the shortest.  You make a choice, and it’s the wrong one.  All the other lanes are moving much faster.  Shall I swap?  If only I’d chosen the other lane: now I’ve got to wait.  Or you are driving, stopped at a red light, that’s been red for ages – and then it goes to green, and the car in front doesn’t seem to have noticed – O come on!  Or at the airport: you look at the board for your flight, and see the dreaded word ‘DELAYED.”  O no, I’ve got to wait another hour. Continue reading

Joy to the World! – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramIsaiah 52:7-10 / Psalm 98 / Hebrews 1:1-4 (5-12) / John 1:1-14

It’s Christmas Day. I love Christmas – and I love singing at Christmas! Christmas is a time for singing: everyone and everything seems to be singing. Have you noticed when you are in a really good mood, or at a birthday, or you’ve just heard a wonderful piece of news, you want to sing, or ring bells, or jump up and down – you can’t help it – it’s just joy! Particularly at Christmas, the Scriptures are full of singing. Our Psalm today: “Sing to the Lord a new song for he has done marvelous things – lift up your voice, rejoice and sing.” And not just people, but the whole of creation: “Shout for joy all you lands, lift up your voice, rejoice and sing … let the sea make a noise, let the rivers clap their hands … let all the trees of the forest sing for joy.” (Psalm 96) At Christmas, it is as if the whole of creation is singing with joy! Continue reading

God, True to Character – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

They shall see the glory of the Lord, the majesty of our God. Strengthen the weak hands, and make firm the feeble knees. Say to those who are of a fearful heart, “Be strong, do not fear! Here is your God. He will come with vengeance, with terrible recompense. He will come and save you.” Then the eyes of the blind shall be opened, and the ears of the deaf unstopped; then the lame shall leap like a deer, and the tongue of the speechless sing for joy. For waters shall break forth in the wilderness, and streams in the desert; the burning sand shall become a pool, and the thirsty ground springs of water; the haunt of jackals shall become a swamp, the grass shall become reeds and rushes…  Isaiah 35:1-10

When John heard in prison what the Messiah was doing, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?” Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have good news brought to them. And blessed is anyone who takes no offense at me…” Matthew 11:2-11 Continue reading

Sermons for the Beach: Contemplative Vision


During the month of August, while the Chapel is closed, we are reposting sermons that we hope will inspire you to embrace play, silence, and recreation. The Chapel will reopen on Tuesday, August 30, 2016.

geoffrey 150xIt is so good to be back again, worshiping in this lovely place, after our time away of retreat and community discussions.  And it is so good to see you all again.  I do hope you have had a great summer – a time for rest and refreshment.

We had a wonderful retreat.  To spend those days amidst the natural beauty of Emery House was a great gift.  Certainly for me, and I know other Brothers, it was an occasion to deepen our contemplative vision.  In the Letter to the Hebrews which was read this morning, verse 14 says, “For here we have no abiding city, but we are looking for a city that is to come.”  And I think that’s really what the contemplative vision is all about.  It is about seeing with the eyes of faith; seeing that this life which we have is not the only reality.  When our contemplative vision grows, we see that the apparently ordinary things of life are shot through with the glory of God.  Spending time on retreat is a wonderful opportunity to really see again heaven breaking through – or as William Blake put it, “to see the world in a grain of sand, and to see heaven in a wild flower, hold infinity in the palm of your hands, and eternity in an hour.” Continue reading

The Initial Profession of Nicholas Bartoli – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Isaiah 40:27 – end
Philippians 3:7-14
John 1:35-42

Today is a day we have been hoping for and praying for, for a very long time.  A day of rejoicing.  Our dear brother Nicholas is to make the vows of poverty, celibacy, and obedience, as a professed brother of our Society.

Gosh, what a long journey this has been Nicholas, to come to this day!  After all the years of seeking, the Lord has found you – and I pray, he has brought you home – a home where you are loved and cherished by your brothers, and by the many men and women whom you serve in your ministries. Continue reading

Rule of Life and Our Relationship with God – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

This sermon is part of a Lenten preaching series on “Growing a Rule of Life.

Preaching SeriesSQRules of Life & the Rhythms of Nature – Br. James Koester
Our Relationship with God – Br. Geoffrey Tristram
Our Relationship with Self – Br. Mark Brown
Our Relationship with Others – Br. David Vryhof
Our Relationship with Creation – Br. Keith Nelson
Living in Rhythm and Balance – Br. Luke Ditewig


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Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Jer. 29:11-14 / Ps. 8:1-6 / Matt. 7:24-27

My sermon today is part of our Lenten preaching series on the theme of “growing a Rule of Life.”  I want to explore how growing a personal rule of Life can transform our relationship with God.

At the age of 17 I went hitchhiking and backpacking through Europe with a friend of mine called Ian.  We had amazing adventures, and several disasters.  One of the disasters happened in Munich.  We got to the Youth Hostel too late and they wouldn’t let us in, and suggested we put up our tent in the park opposite.  We unpacked the tent, but we were so tired that we didn’t bother to bang in all the tent pegs.  “That’ll do!”  We got into our sleeping bags and fell asleep at once.  And of course the worst happened.  In the middle of the night there was a storm and terrific winds, and at 3:00 in the morning the tent fell on top of us, and we were soaked.  That experience reminded me of the words from today’s Gospel – about the wise man who built his house on the rock – who put his roots deeply into the rock of faith.  And when the wind and rain and storms came his house stood firm.  Ian and I were like the foolish man who built his house on sand, and when the storm came it fell down – like our tent.

The theme of these Lenten sermons is how we might build strong foundations in our lives of faith – how we might bang in tent pegs, so that when the storms of life come we stay upright, and don’t collapse. Continue reading

Confession of Peter – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramMatthew 16:13-19

I first visited the Holy Land 25 years ago, when I went with my parish on a pilgrimage. It was during the month of May, and the most memorable day was when we got up early, and drove north from Jerusalem, through the West Bank and up through the Galilee, and even further north. By now the land was becoming more mountainous, and as we climbed, I remember the countryside started to change and look Alpine, very green, covered with beautiful flowers. And then suddenly, in the distance we caught sight of Mount Hermon, shimmering in the sun.

Eventually we arrived at our destination. On the very borders of Syria and Lebanon, we came to the village of Banyas, which marks the source of the river Jordan. It felt very remote, very beautiful. Continue reading

Funeral of Br. Bernard Russell, SSJE


John 14:1-6

We are here today to give thanks to Almighty God for the life of our dear brother Bernard.  Bernie has been part of our community, part of our life for so many years, that it seems hard to believe he is no longer with us.  When we brothers make our vows, we don’t make a specific vow of stability, like the Benedictines, but if we did, Bernie would have modeled it to perfection.  He fully inhabited the place where he lived – and the place he loved most of all, of course, was Emery House.  “This is my home” he would say, as he sat quietly in the refectory, mug of black coffee in his hand, gazing out of the window at the meadow.  He made our community his home over 50 years ago.

He was born in 1922 in Alexandria, Virginia.  As a young man he worshipped at the Episcopal parish of the Ascension and St. Agnes, and graduated from Central High School, Washington, D.C.  He then served for two years in the U.S. Air Force as a bombardier navigator during the Second World War.  Following the war, he worked first as a reservation clerk for Colonial Airlines, New York City, and then for Peterson Travel Agency in Garden City, Long Island.  He’d often take his passport to work with him, as he would never know if he’d need to fill in as a flight attendant, or assist with a tour group. Continue reading

We would see Jesus – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Luke 2: 1-14

Christmas is here. Glorious, wonderful, magical Christmas is here.  The weather may not feel like Christmas, but spread out before us in this church is our beautiful crèche. I love to just stand and gaze at it…with wide eyed wonder, like a child.  But then ever since I was a child I have loved Christmas. The magic in the air, the carols, Christmas tree lights and decorations.  Opening presents with such excitement, and then turkey and minced pies and chocolates.

But for many people, that is all that Christmas is about. As a parish priest I would visit our local church junior school, and I remember one nine year old boy writing this in his Christmas essay: ‘I know Christmas should be a religious time, but for me, Christmas is a time for the necessities of life, like food, presents and booze.’  I felt sad that one so young should have already acquired such a cynical view. Continue reading

Coming Home – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Exodus 3:7-12
Psalm 84:1-6
Luke 15:11-24

This evening is the second in our series of sermons on the theme of ‘Salvation Revisited.’  We are exploring the theme of salvation, which is central to the faith of the Church, and to the season of Advent, when we are promised a ‘Savior.’

Next week the theme will be ‘The sacred and Imperishable Proclamation’ and the final week’s theme will be ‘Salvation – from What, to What?’

My theme today is ‘Coming Home.’

When I was a teenager I rarely went to church.  I was confirmed at 12, at school.  Almost everyone in my class was confirmed – mainly so as not to let the house down!  But for me, it was a kind of ‘passing out parade.’  No more church.  I was interested in religious ideas, but thought Christianity rather facile.  I preferred the more exotic Eastern forms of religious expression – far more interesting ways of trying to make contact with the divine.  But one day, in my late teens, on one of my rare visits to church, I heard a Gospel which kind of stopped me in my tracks.  It was the Gospel we heard read today: the parable of the Prodigal Son.  What really moved me, was this image of the Father.  Day after day, his father had been longing for his son – missing him, longing for him to come home.  Scanning the horizon.  Please, my son, come home.  And then, one day, he sees him, way in the distance.  He is so overjoyed that he runs – runs out to meet him, and welcome him home. Continue reading

John of the Cross – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Job 19:1-8

“He has walled up my way so that I cannot pass, and he has set darkness upon my paths.” (Job 19:8)

Today we give thanks to God for the life and witness of one of the greatest mystical theologians who ever lived – St. John of the Cross.  During my life as a Christian, a priest and a monk, whenever I have felt my life of prayer has become shallow or even empty, I have invariably found new life, hope and passion in John’s writings, and especially in such great poems as The Living Flame of Love and The Dark Night with its famous opening line, “En unanocheoscura.” Continue reading

Holding Those on Our Hearts before God – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram

1 Samuel 1:4-20

It’s a great joy for me to be back at the monastery, after my time of sabbatical.  I spent much of my time with my family – my mother and my brothers and sister and their families, my nieces and nephews.  I also stayed with friends in England, Ireland and France.  It was also a great time for reflection and for prayer.  I am so grateful for this time away, and I’m very grateful for your prayers for me.

I visited so many great churches and cathedrals, from York and Durham to Canterbury, and from Cork to Notre Dame in Paris.  Whenever I go into a great church, I love to find a place to light a candle, and kneel down, and remember those I love, those who are on my heart, those who I know in need, or have asked me to pray for them.  And I know many of you do this in the chapel – lighting a candle and offering up prayers. Continue reading

Funeral Homily for Br. Eldridge Pendleton, SSJE

Funeral Homily for Br. Eldridge Pendleton, SSJE (1940-2015)
Preached at the Monastery by the Superior, Br. Geoffrey Tristram, SSJE

We gather together today to give thanks to God for the life of our dear brother Eldridge. And what a rich life it has been, and a life which has touched and blessed each of us here today in a different way. We are here to give thanks for this man whose gentle kindness, wisdom and sheer grace have made our lives different, this man whose wonderful and sometimes wicked sense of humor and contagious laugh has delighted and cheered us on our way.

As I have been reflecting on these past 16 years since I have known Eldridge, and on the missions which we have been on together, I would say that, more than anyone else I know, his life has been a life of pilgrimage. Continue reading

The Cross, The Sword, The Crown – Br. Geoffrey Tristram


geoffrey 150xMatthew 10:34-42

Today, we give thanks to God for one of the great saints and martyrs of the Church, St. Alban. He is one of my favorite saints because for much of my ministry as a parish priest I worked in the English Diocese of St. Albans, which is in the county of Hertfordshire, some 25 miles north of London. The city of St. Albans, in Roman times, was called Verulamium, but its name was changed in honor of the man who, like his Lord, gave his up his life for another. Continue reading

Perichoresis and Our Life Together: A Dance of Mutual Love

SSJE145In the fourth chapter of the Rule of the Society of Saint John the Evangelist, we express how and why we understand that all human beings are called to live in community: “In community we bear witness to the social nature of human life as willed by our Creator. Human beings bear the image of the triune God and are not meant to be separate and isolated.” All of us, as human beings, are called to share in communities of one kind or another, because we have all been made in the image and likeness of God. And God is community: “The very being of God is community; the Father, Son and Spirit are One in reciprocal self-giving and love.”  Continue reading

The Heart Has Its Reasons – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey Tristram‘Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? Who shut in the sea with doors when it burst out of the womb?’[i] In this beautifully lyrical passage from the Book of Job, God invites Job to look and see the wonders of God’s creation. For if you look, you will surely see, in the words of today’s psalm that ‘the heavens declare the glory of God, and the firmament shows his handiwork.’[ii]

Or does it? When I was about fifteen, I came across Bertrand Russell’s slim volume, Why I am not a Christian, and I declared to my friends, and teachers, partly to shock, that I no longer believed in God. Well, as you can see, as the years went by, I changed my views and became theist, and eventually Christian. But I have never lost my respect for the scientific method, nor, actually, sensed any fundamental clash between the different purposes of science and religion. As far back as the Renaissance there was a clear demarcation between what was called ‘natural philosophy’ (approximately what we would call ‘science’) which concentrated on empirical evidence from nature, and theology’s concentration on questions of purpose and meaning. They were not seen as contradictory. So, for example, Sir Isaac Newton wrote as much about the Book of Revelation as about the theory of gravity! Continue reading

Choose Life! – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramMatthew 16:26

Over this past week, I have had the privilege of leading a retreat for men and women who are preparing for ordination.  We’ve been reflecting on, and praying about the mystery of vocation.  And “vocation” is the theme of the days of this week, which are called Ember Days.  Each day this week we have been praying for those who have a vocation, and in particular those who have been called to ministry.

Today is the last of these Ember Days, and today’s collect is about vocation – but it’s about your vocation and mine.  “We pray for all members of the holy church, that in their vocation and ministry they may truly and devoutly serve you.”

If you have been baptized, then you have a vocation!  So what is a vocation?  Some people think it must be something that you suddenly get.  You’re walking along quite happily one day, and God suddenly “zaps” you with a vocation!  I don’t think that’s quite right.  I believe that your vocation is that which lies at the very heart, the very core of your identity.   It is discovering who it is that you most truly are. Continue reading

The Changes of Life – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramActs 10:44-48

As many of you know, at the end of next week I am going to England to preside at the wedding of my niece Katherine and her fiancé Michael.  I’m really excited about it, and I’ve been poring over the Church of England marriage ceremony online, so that I’ll look as if I know what I’m doing!  I haven’t married anyone for quite a few years, and it was certainly one of the joys of being a parish priest.  I have always understood Holy Matrimony as a sacrament: that God’s Holy Spirit comes down upon two individuals, and through a deep mystery, makes them one.  In the words of the Church of England rite, “The couple shall be united with one another in heart, body and mind.”

They are changed.  God’s Spirit has the power to change us.  As a sign of this change, couples often change one or the other’s surname, and wear a ring of their finger.  I’m no longer who I was.  I have been changed. Continue reading

St. Anselm – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramMatthew 11:25-30

Nestling in a verdant Norman valley, surrounded by meadows and apple orchards, between Rouen and Lisieux, stands the famous Benedictine abbey of Le Bec Hellouin.  In my early twenties I would often go to Le Bec for my retreats.  I remember the first thing you would see in the distance – the tall, beautiful, creamy stone church tower of St. Nicholas, welcoming you into the valley.  I loved the singing of the monks, I loved my conversations with the abbot about monasticism, and about my vocation.

Le Bec Hellouin also has very close historical ties with the Church of England, and in particular with Canterbury Cathedral.  The reason for this is primarily because not one, but two of its abbots went on to be Archbishop of Canterbury.  First, Lanfranc, and then in the year 1093, Anselm, whom we remember today. Continue reading

From Still Days to Dawn – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Br. Geoffrey TristramMark 16:1-8

These last three days – Maundy Thursday, Good Friday, and Holy Saturday, are what the Anglo-Saxon church called the “Still Days.”  The Still Days – days of silent mourning, in which all church bells were silent.

Very early in the morning, on the first day of the week, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome came, carrying spices, to anoint the body of Jesus.  For these women, another Still Day.  Like the day when they witnessed their beloved Jesus arrested and tried.  The day when they saw his bruised and bloodied body carrying the cross through the taunting crowds along the streets of Jerusalem, and through tearful eyes they saw him die upon the cross.  The day when they watched his broken body taken down from the cross and wrapped in a linen cloth and taken to that garden and laid in the rock hewn tomb, and a great stone rolled against the door.

And then the day of Sabbath, when they rested, according to the commandment.  Still Days, for prayer and silent mourning. Continue reading